How to Live Beyond Expectations

Sometimes in life we feel there are two paths we can choose and the pressure is on. If we don't choose the "right" path our life will have been a waste and we will have failed. When this mindset happens it is because we forget that life is about the journey. When God said life would be a test to prove us he didn't mean it would be a pass/fail adventure. I think of proving more like the proving that happens when making bread. Before a loaf of bread can rise, the yeast must be added to warm water and must prove. It must rise and develop the ability to become bread. Then ingredients must be added - this can be compared to us adding skills and abilities to our own lives. Then trials come and just like the bread after it's first rise, we are punched down and reshaped into something better. Then we are meant to rise again and become a beautiful loaf. I like this analogy so much better than a test like we might have in school because proving bread reminds us that we are in the process of becoming something new and wonderful. During the punch-down times we may lose sight of what we are becoming because life seems tough, but eternal perspective keeps us on the right track. One of my favorite quotes is below: 

One thing that can stunt that rise or growth is the perceived pressures of accountability if you don't do certain things in life like have a certain amount of kids, or perform well in school, or like certain foods, or dress a certain way. We are in a world of information and it takes time for our brain to learn how to interpret it. Sometimes we look at others like our parents and duplicating what they do brings learning and growth. This is essential for a small child. However, when we extend that need to duplicate other's behaviors or lives beyond healthy boundaries we find ourselves never measuring up. Why?  Because we can never duplicate everyone else and we weren't meant to. We are meant to learn from others and take what we can and then to develop ourselves the best we can -without comparison or expectations. God doesn't expect us to do any more than that so how can we expect that of ourselves. 

In short, have compassion with yourself. Love yourself for who you are, what you have become, the journey that you have already taken. You have learned so much and grown so much! Instead of dwelling on all you think you should have become, find peace with who you are. You are amazing. The journey of life is not a test but an adventure that will lead you through difficult valleys and onto beautiful mountains. Each step will help you grow. Each day choose to become better than the day before and you will find happiness. This is your life and your life alone. You don't have to please anyone else. It's between you and God- the God of eternal love and mercy.